As the eclipse settles, I can't help but reflect on how it’s setting the stage for a powerful new 2.5-year cycle. This eclipse mirrors a time many of us experienced between 2015 and 2017—a time of transformation, challenges, and, for me, lessons in boundaries.

It’s the perfect moment to pause and ask: How do I want to do things differently this time around?

Looking back at who I was during that period, I can see so many things I would have done differently. It’s not about regretting the past but about learning from it and using those lessons to create a future that’s aligned with the life I truly want to live.

Is with Coaching You know, it hit me recently—the most stable, consistent, and transformative relationship I’ve ever had in my life isn’t with a person. It’s with coaching. And honestly, that realization feels powerful. Not just because coaching has become a significant part of my life and work, but because it’s deeply tied to one of my core values: freedom.

For years, I felt trapped in my own life. I didn’t know it at the time, but the root of my frustration and exhaustion was a lack of boundaries. In my relationships—with family, friends, and even romantic partners—I found myself constantly saying yes when I wanted to say no, taking on other people’s emotions and responsibilities while neglecting my own. I didn’t realize that boundaries weren’t just about keeping others at a distance; they were about allowing myself the emotional space to thrive.

Growing up in a family where boundaries didn’t exist, I found myself constantly bending to others' needs, unsure of where my own limits lay. There was no guidebook on how to protect my energy or communicate when something didn’t feel right. This lack of boundaries followed me into adulthood, shaping my relationships and leaving me feeling exhausted and disconnected from my true self.

For the longest time, I believed that saying yes was a sign of love. Whether it was with family, friends, or romantic partners, I thought that by always agreeing, always being available, I was proving my commitment. But the truth is, saying yes to everything was draining me. I began to realize that true love, in all its forms, also involves saying no—and that no is a boundary that strengthens, not weakens, relationships.

For years, I felt trapped in my own life. I didn’t know it at the time, but the root of my frustration and exhaustion was a lack of boundaries. In my relationships—with family, friends, and even romantic partners—I found myself constantly saying yes when I wanted to say no, taking on other people’s emotions and responsibilities while neglecting my own. I didn’t realize that boundaries weren’t just about keeping others at a distance; they were about allowing myself the emotional space to thrive.